Baptim / Marriage
FAQ's about being a Godparent
Congratulations on being asked to be a Godparent; they are very important people! It means that your friends or relations think you’ll be a good example to their child. They trust you to pray for them, speak to them about God and encourage them in their Christian faith.
What does being a godparent involve?
As a godparent, you have a special role. It’s about helping a child to come to know God, encouraging them in their spiritual life and supporting them in their membership of the local church. You will be expected to be attend the child’s baptism, where you will make promises to help to bring them up in the Christian faith. It’s a role that will develop over time, as your godchild grows up and develops their own faith.
It feels like a big responsibility . . .
It is. Have a look at the questions you will answer in the baptism service. Take some time to think through the commitments you make when you answer them. But don’t forget that the Church can support you in encouraging and praying for your godchild.
I’m not sure I can make these decisions. What if I’ve not thought much about my faith and don’t go to church regularly?
Most people have doubts at some stage, and no one’s asking you to be perfect. However, being asked to be a godparent is a good opportunity to think about your own faith. Godparents must have been baptised themselves, and it’s best if you are also confirmed. Baptism or confirmation preparation can help you with your own questions about the Christian faith. It will also help you to support your godchild in developing their own faith. If you have any questions at all, why not speak to your parish priest or another Christian you know.
Does being a godparent mean I’m a legal guardian as well?
No. Your role as godparent is a spiritual one – to encourage and pray for your godchild. Perhaps you will be asked to be a guardian too, but that is separate from being a godparent.
I’m worried about doing the right thing on the day
The priest will make sure the service goes smoothly and that everyone knows what to do and when. Why not ask if there’s a rehearsal or any other preparation you could get involved in?
What should I give as a present?
The most important gifts you can give your godchild are your time, presence and prayers, but you will probably also want to mark the baptism or confirmation by giving a special gift. Godparents don’t have to buy expensive gifts. A simple, meaningful present is a good choice – maybe something to be used at the baptism, or a gift to be kept for later.
Here are some suggestions. You’ll find many of these at Christian bookshops and cathedral gift shops. Or ask your priest for details of local suppliers.
- Bibles: There are many different editions of the Bible. Some have pictures and simple language especially for children. Some have presentation boxes. It’s worth asking the parents if there’s a version they prefer. Perhaps you’ll decide on a children’s Bible at baptism and an adult edition as a confirmation present
- Books of Bible Stories: There are some lovely illustrated books of Bible stories for children. Why not build up a series over the next few years? You can always ask bookshops for advice on age-appropriate titles
- Books of prayers: You’ll find a wide variety available, including illustrated and gift book styles.
- A silver or gold cross or chain (remember that your godchild won’t be able to wear this for some time).
- A small wooden cross; drawings, paintings and posters of Christian stories; an icon or picture
What happens in the baptism service?
Baptisms normally take place during a Sunday morning service, so the church congregation can welcome the child into the Church and declare their intention to support and pray for the child, parents and godparents. When it comes to the baptism itself, the priest asks the parents and godparents to bring the child to the front of the church or gather around the font. Before the baptism, the priest asks you to declare that you intend to do your best as a godparent. The priest asks you to say that you’re ‘prepared to walk with [the child] in the way of Christ’ and will ‘help them take their place within the life and worship of Christ’s Church’. Remember, if you’ve any doubts you can always discuss them with your priest.
After the baptism service
The Church may give you a special card to remind you of your godchild’s baptism and the promises you have made. Keep it somewhere you’ll see it every day, so you remember your godchild each day and ask God to bless them daily as they grow up. Why not keep an up-to-date photograph alongside the card?
Building a relationship with your godchild
You’re a godparent. Now what? Both you and your godchild will get far more out of this relationship if you can keep it alive. Children love to get letters, postcards and emails. Why not send a card or small gift on the anniversary of the baptism, to show you care about them and to remind you both of what’s special about this relationship. Keep in touch regularly as they grow up. Perhaps when they’re older, they’ll want to ask questions about faith or Christian life. If you’ve kept in touch, they might be able to ask you – and that’s something special.
Growing in faith: Confirmation
Hopefully, later on your godchild will want to make his or her own declaration of faith at a confirmation service. Confirmation is an important occasion. Your godchild confirms the promises you made for them at the baptism service and the bishop leading the service prays for God’s Holy Spirit to rest upon your godchild. Before their confirmation, they attend a series of classes or meetings at their local church or school. They discuss what it means to be a Christian, so they can decide whether to make their own Christian commitment and how they’ll express that in their own lives.
“Marriage is a gift of God our creator. It is a symbol of God’s unending love for his people, and of the union between Christ and his Church… Scripture teaches that marriage is a lifelong partnership uniting a woman and man in heart, mind and body…
No one should enter it lightly or selfishly, but responsibly and joyfully, with mutual respect and the promise to be faithful.”
You may want to ask for God’s blessing on your marriage, with a wedding held in an Anglican church. Normally, at least one of the partners to the marriage needs to have been baptised, though not necessarily in the Anglican Church. It is possible for marriages to be celebrated in the Anglican Church where one or both partners has been previously married and is divorced, with the Bishop’s permission.
Priests of the Anglican Church of Australia are authorised to celebrate marriages in Australia, according to Anglican forms of service and subject to Australian law. Modern Anglican forms of service are very beautiful and offer great flexibility, though couples are not free to write their own vows.
The priest responsible for each church or chapel will have information about what is involved for couples seeking to be married there. Preparation for married life is always a requirement, perhaps using relationship education provided by an organisation like Anglicare through Kinway, or a programme like Prepare / Enrich which is done with the priest who will celebrate the marriage service.
For enquiries about Baptism or Marriage, contact the Parish office